So, it’s that time of the year again — January rolls around, and suddenly everyone’s making resolutions and reflecting on life. But here’s the thing: fresh starts don’t follow a calendar. Trust me, I’ve learned this firsthand. Change doesn’t wait for a specific date; it just shows up, usually uninvited, and asks, “Are you ready?” Spoiler alert: you’re rarely ready.
Change has been by my side for as long as I can remember. I’ve called six different houses “home,” switched schools eight times, and moved across borders more than once, from the UAE to Pakistan, then to the U.S., where I reside independently as an international student. Each move came with its own plot twists, challenges, and growth moments. But here I am, still standing and maybe even thriving (on a good day).
And now, in January 2025, I’m gearing up for yet another plot twist and adventure, transferring from De Anza College to the University of California, Berkeley. Am I excited? Totally. Am I also low-key freaking out? Absolutely. But here’s what my nomadic life has taught me: new beginnings aren’t just about leaving something behind; they’re about starting something amazing.
Making Peace with Change
Change and I go way back. Growing up with divorced parents meant my life was basically a series of plot twists — new homes, new schools, new dynamics. Stability? I had to find that within myself.
In no way ever was that easy. Every move meant starting from scratch: new environments, new people, and figuring out where I fit in. But each fresh start shaped me. Now, I see change as less of a villain and more like that intense coach who pushes you to grow. It’s challenging, but it is 100% worth it.
Perspective Is Everything
One of my favorite lines comes from Ratatouille (yes, the Pixar movie): “The only thing predictable about life is its unpredictability.” Honestly, those words are my mantra. Whenever I’m staring down a new chapter, I remind myself that unpredictability isn’t the enemy — it’s an opportunity.
Take moving to the U.S., for example. I left Pakistan with zero connections, friends, family, and a whole lot of nerves. Cue culture shock, homesickness, and the pressure to crush it academically in a system I barely understood. But those challenges were the ultimate glow-up moment. I gained independence, confidence, and a level of self-trust I didn’t know I had. Not only had I learned to be on my own, I learned to enjoy being on my own. This came as a surprise, especially coming from a collectivist culture.
What I’ve Learned (So Far)
If you’re on your way to a fresh start, here are my two cents:
- Find Your People
Whether it’s friends, family, or mentors, having a system of people who care makes all the difference. At De Anza College, I leaned on professors and fellow international students, and that support kept me sane.
- Stay Curious
New environments can be daunting, but they’re also full of opportunities. Lean into the discomfort; it’s where the magic happens.
- Celebrate Small Wins
Adjusting to change is overwhelming, so even tiny victories (like getting the hang of the U.S. public transportation system for me) deserve a pat on the back.
- Feel It All
It’s okay to miss what you’re leaving behind while also being stoked about what’s ahead. Emotions are messy, but they’re part of the ride. Care for yourself through the highs and lows.
What’s Next
As I pack for my 2 years ahead at Berkeley, I’m feeling all the emotions — nervous, excited, and everything in between. But more than anything, I’m grateful. Every twist and turn brought me here, ready for this next adventure.
If you’re standing on the edge of a big change, here’s your sign to take the leap. It’s scary, sure, but it’s also a chance to grow into the person you’re meant to be. Change might not always be fun, but it’s always worth it. Your new beginning can start at any given moment; you just have to brace yourself and go for it, take it from me. Here’s to the unknown… one fresh start at a time!
