Coping

April 9, 2026 — I’ve always loved Solange Knowles. Not just for Cranes In The Sky (though that song plays like gospel when I’m in my feelings), but because of the raw, unfiltered truth she delivers through her music. In Cranes, she sings about trying to drown out pain through every coping mechanism we’re taught to idolize: shopping, working, crying, even changing her hair. She did it all. And still, she felt everything. It wasn’t numbness she was singing about; it was exhaustion. A bone-deep kind of weariness that isn’t necessarily big, but still weighs down your chest. I didn’t expect that to hit me the way it did. But emotional pain? It’s quiet like that. It doesn’t always arrive in sobs or breakdowns. Sometimes, it just lingers. A sort of ineffable type of feeling. And eventually, like Solange, you realize that healing doesn’t come from running. It comes from stopping. From feeling. From rebuilding, piece by piece, breath by breath. That’s what resilience has looked like for me, and trust me, it wasn’t cute. I was born in Washington D.C., but I was raised in Italy, and eventually I moved from Italy to rural Georgia when I was eight. I didn’t know the language. I didn’t understand the culture. And for a long time, I didn’t even recognize the version of myself I had to become to survive. I was the only African boy in a sea of Southern drawls and tight-knit friend groups that spanned years. People laughed at my accent, butchered my name (as if pronouncing Dom-uh-NICK Mim-uh-BANG is the hardest task in the world), and asked me if I was “really American.” I remember reading aloud in class and hearing snickers when I tripped over words. Not because I didn’t know what they meant, but because I had only ever seen them written, never said aloud. I stayed quiet for years. Even after I learned the language, I couldn’t shake the shame that had already dug itself in. That’s the thing about resilience: when it starts forming in silence, it hardens differently. I thought the only way to prove I belonged was to overperform. To show up everywhere—to be louder, better, more prepared, more impressive. I joined every club, led every project, and tried to become undeniable. I ran for leadership in an organization that quite literally shaped who I am today. Not once. Twice. And I lost both times. Not quietly, either. I campaigned at conferences with thousands of attendees and read a speech out to those same attendees. And both times, I had to clap for someone else as the room erupted in applause for them. It was public. It was humbling. And it was painful. But here’s the thing: I kept going in the organization and stayed involved, regardless of whether or not I was on the state board for it. And that’s resilience. Not perfection. Not ever failing. Just... refusing to stay down. So what is emotional resilience, really? According to the American Psychological Association, resilience is “the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences.” It’s not something that you’re naturally born with; it’s something you build over time (APA, 2022). So if you've ever felt like a mess after a rejection or a failure, guess what? You’re not broken, you're human. Here’s how I started building mine: Feel First, Fix LaterI used to think I had to “bounce back” instantly. Now I know better. Resilience starts with sitting in your feelings. Labeling them. Talking about them. According to the National Institutes of Health, acknowledging emotions and processing them (instead of bottling them up) is linked to better long-term mental health outcomes (NIH, 2021). It’s okay to say, “This really hurts.”That’s not weakness. That’s step one. Build a Soft LandingThere’s a myth that strong people are self-sufficient. That we “tough it out” alone. But Harvard research says otherwise. One supportive relationship—a teacher, a parent, a friend—can be the biggest predictor of a young person’s ability to recover from adversity (Harvard, 2021). My bounce-back crew includes my AP Literature teacher, Miss Davenport, my mom, and my unserious but wise friend Akshaaya. Together, they’ve talked me off more metaphorical cliffs than I can count. Find your people. Let them in. Redefine What "Losing" MeansThose elections I lost? At first, they felt like public proof that I didn’t belong. But eventually, they became reminders that worth isn't tied to a title. I learned how to organize, how to connect with people, and how to speak from the heart without a script. I learned to lead without a title. And weirdly enough, I’ve had more impact from the sidelines than I ever thought possible. Resilience taught me that worth doesn’t come from applause. It comes from the “why” behind the work. Let Humor Heal YouThere’s science to back this up: researchers from the Mayo Clinic say that laughter reduces stress, improves mood, and even strengthens your immune system (Mayo Clinic, 2021). And sometimes? The only thing between you and a breakdown is a well-timed meme. I’ve made Canva powerpoints titled “Why I Shouldn’t Have Trusted the Process” and voice-noted myself mid-cry just to laugh at it later. It works. (Not always. But more often than not, it does.) Resilience isn’t linear. Some days, you feel like you’re floating above it all — like the cranes in Solange’s sky. Other days, you’re stuck in the mud of everything going wrong. But you are still here. And that’s enough. So if you’re in the middle of your own comeback story, I hope you take this as permission to feel everything, rest when you need to, and keep rising: quietly or loudly, slowly or all at once. Your bounce-back era isn’t coming. It’s already in motion. And when you look back, you’ll be proud you didn’t give up.

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